Couples who seek marriage counseling before they file for divorce should be applauded. I wish more spouses and even unmarried couples with children sought out professional counseling before separation. Not only is it often worth the time and minimal effort but I am increasingly convinced marriage counseling, with some exceptions, should be a necessary prerequisite to a divorce filing.
Why do I believe this?
Because a significant number of marital problems couples face arise out of poor communication or priority setting. These issues need to be discussed and marriage counseling before a divorce stands a good chance of addressing such issues and moving the couple toward resolution. Even if counseling does not succeed in a reconciliation, it can help bring closure and set the foundation for a divorce that isn’t fraught with bitterness and hostility.
In this article, we are going to discuss the potential exceptions – situations where marriage counseling in an effort to reconcile should be approached with more caution and, in certain instances, reconciliation should be avoided until there are first certain minimum legal safeguards. We write this article from the perspective of divorce attorneys and nothing else. If you have questions about counseling from a therapeutic or other setting and wish to have a referral, there are several referral agencies or, if you desire, you can contact ou attorneys and we can refer you to experienced and licensed psychologists or therapists in Orange County. [Read more…]