Parental gatekeeping in California child custody disputes is an old and ongoing problem. Maternal gatekeeping is more dominant than the paternal kind but both can create barriers toward co-parenting, communication, quality time between a parent and child and, ultimately, alienation of affection. In this comprehensive article, we will address parental gatekeeping in child custody disputes, what it is, how it is used, the intent behind it and what can be done to break through it, even if it means taking custody away from the gatekeeping parent.
Our focus is California child custody laws and no other State. Nothing in this article should be considered legal advice.
What is parental gatekeeping?
We have heard and read different definitions of parental gatekeeping by the psychological community. We are not psychologists. We are California divorce lawyers and, unlike psychologists, we are in the litigation trenches of this issue. We don’t see parental gatekeeping in the abstract or through a therapeutic setting. We deal with parental gatekeeping head on, often amidst contested and complex child custody cases. Thus, our definition may be different than theirs.
What is ours? Parental gatekeeping are measures taken by a parent to shield a child from actual, perceived or manufactured harm. Notice we broke up parental gatekeeping into three categories. They are: [Read more…]